Things can be simple + survey invitation
One step at a time, one breath at a time, one day at a time, we're in this together and I'm glad
“When in doubt,” I heard myself saying, “I keep coaching sessions super simple and try to forget everything I’ve ever learned.”
My client, new to coaching and having a coaching skills mentor to ask questions of, marvelled,
“So do you just let your mind go blank, and listen, or what? Here I am each practice session surrounded by my notes and coaching school textbooks…”
Not going to lie, my heart swells when I hear this tone of wholeheartedness and caring coming from a devoted new coach. Oh! It does a soul good. I could’ve said so much.
But I kept my answer simple and light.
”Yes, I let my mind be as clear as possible, and empty in an expectant way so that the client’s needs have plenty of room to come into the space.
But in the few minutes before the coaching call, there are two things I like to do.
First, I like to review the 15 Coaching Deliverables to remind myself not to try too hard. Next, I do a short visualisation that puts me in the coaching zone.
And then I let go and trust.”
”That’s it??” the client asked.
If you haven’t heard of the 15 Coaching Deliverables until now, you’re in for a rare treat.
And if you have heard of them, aloha and have fun reviewing! Here they are in PDF format. There’s just something about running through these before a session that keeps things on point for me.
Sometimes, it’s just that simple.
Do you have a go-to tool you love that brings out your best without descending into complexity? I’d love to know! Comment on the blog here.
Curious about getting coaching skills support or mentoring like my client, above? Love to hear that too. Go here.
At long last, my Master’s Degree Survey is open for participation and sharing - would you help me spread the word?
After almost four years, a pandemic leave of absence, a change of thesis committee members and one pair of tired eyes from all the academic reading, I am overjoyed to finally be in the data collection phase of my research.
The survey, which explores emotional abusiveness in romantic relationships is now open and I am sharing widely and eagerly in order to get as robust a set of participants as possible.
Have you ever been emotionally abusive in a romantic relationship?
You get to define what emotionally abusive is (that’s part of what I’m surveying.) If you said “yes,” I wholeheartedly invite you to participate. It’s 100% confidential and because of its groundbreaking nature, every single answer will make a real difference to the outcome.
Or…perhaps you know someone who’s been emotionally abusive in a past or current relationship (not necessarily involving you?)
Contrary to popular belief, a significant number of people who are emotionally-abusive know they are, and really want to stop. Plus, there are more people in this category than you might think! If you said “yes, I know someone” I’d be very grateful if you can find a way to share this survey with them.
Lastly, if you’d simply like to share the survey in general, but not to a specific person, that would be very helpful and meaningful, too.
To share in email, feel free to forward.
Keeping things simple here too, I’ll finish today by saying with gusto - thank you ever so much. More news coming soon, the kind that involves packing (no, not a vacation)!
Until next time, please keep very well. You’re important, you’re precious and I cherish being on this adventure called life with you.
P.S. My new favourite video is here, courtesy of my dear youngest brother who tricked me into watching something I would normally never click.
Yes it’s a bit longer of a video, but truly it’s worth it especially if you’re in need of a gentle pick-me-up, if you could use some sencouragement, or if you’d like to (re)kindle your sense of awe and hope, and possibility.